From A Reader - "I have one last major question for the time being. If Iask he out to just go see a movie, when I stop by to pick her up and trot on down to our theater, should I bring a flower. I was thinking that she might think a rose is too much and so maybe an orchid."

PHUCK NO. NO FLOWERS. I swear, you'll look back and say, "what the hell was I thinking." Leave the flowers for after you sleep with her... God willing.

Suggest to her, "hey let's go catch a flick sometime." don't corner her into setting a time or place... don't put her on the spot.

After she says, "yes, I'd love to go see a movie." Then say, "cool, let me know when you're available..."

If she says, "yes" and you immediately suggest a movie, it'll make it look like you've been planning it, creep. So wait until next time you see her, then, suggest a movie and a time...

However, I'd re-think the movie thing for the first date. It's better you go to a public place. It shows that you're not really trying that hard to get her alone... which of course you are, but trust me - take this advice and you'll be good to go. At the very least, if she does happen to reject you, won't feel like an ass for the whole flower thing...

Remember, the day she does get a boyfriend, you may be stuck in your elevator with all of them. Then all you'd hear are giggles as the door closes and they get off on the floor below you.

I know all this pretending and game playing sucks, but once you two are together you can look back and laugh about it. But this is the shit that guys phuck up on. We are always too eager. Good Luck.

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