natureofproject: So my ex-girlfriend calls me and says she wants to "catch up". I say fine, and we go to lunch. At the very beginning of the date, she tells me "I've liked you for sooo long", and i say "that's cool". I was caught off guard. Anyways, the rest of the date goes well, then the next time I call, at about 1, she's asleep (okay, fine. she's 16, she can sleep in till 2.) Then i call back at about 4, and no one answers. I call back the next day, she says she's busy right now but she'll call back in an hour. She never does.

I talk to her on MSN, she says that her phone "doesn't work when it tries to call my house". I read your articles, so I know that this is bullshit, so i give up. Why should i proceed with somebody whose doesn't give a shit?

So, on to the question... Why did this happen? She obviously liked me, she told me so. But she just ditched me. Any tips? Is she just crazy? am i?

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SM: So how's it working out? Chances are she's crazy!  Why did this happen, you ask... she's a chick. I know that's any easy and obvious response, but get used to it. Chicks are just weird. Especially at a younger age. And when they get older, they're still weird, just in a more desperate way. We (humans) say things we don't mean to people all the time. The only tip I have is to leave her alone.

Don't begrudge her anything. Meaning, don't be angry with her, don't try to get with her again... just don't go out of your way to call her. If she happens to call you - cool, chat with her, be friendly.. but DON'T start dropping anything about the two of you... always keep the conversation civil, but don't make it obvious that you're avoiding anything, or any one topic.

Basically Dave, just go with 'the flow' it's a gay phucking expression - but it seems to fit here - if she comes up and talks to you, talk to her. If she talks about the two of you - just go with anything she says. Never show emotion, don't be an ass - just be aloof. If you fall for her lines of, "I'll call you in a bit" and you find yourself bummed out when she doesn't, like a warrior, you have to practice to get over that feeling.

Don't wait for her call.. just keep going about your day as you always would - unless your daily routine involves stalking her in the bushes, then i'd try changing your routine. Dave, either way - just take care of yourself, do what you need to do to make you happy and the rest will take care of itself. If falling for a chick's bullshit over and over again makes you happy, then all the power to you... but I'm telling ya, strengthen yourself now for later. Beside all this, you shouldn't even care about any one girl. You need to be out their banging as many chicks as possible.

You're young, there's plenty of time to lose your hopes, your house and your sanity to women in the future. For the love of God, wear protection.