Don't make the first move and don't wait for her to do it cause it may never happen. Very few women have the moxie or awareness for that matter to be the first to pucker up so instead, try saying goodnight with a peck on the cheek...yeah right!

How impossible is that? You're 18 and your dick is rubbing up against your Calvin's. You gotta try and kiss her. But man, when you get older you realize, "what the hell was I thinking?" How could I have been so straight forward and inconsiderate? Instead try to wear them down... slowly... :)

You see the thing is, first moves work 70% of the time. Meaning, 7 of 10 girls will give you tongue and maybe a bit of tit at the end of a first date. IF YOU PLAY YOUR CARDS RIGHT.

Before we go on with the hedonistic, "take it while you can" advice, remember this - You will always get further the second or third date if you leave her wanting more. Again, try not making a move on the first date.

But if you absolutely "need it now" here's what to consider...an awful amount of energy is wasted on planning your strike.

How many movies do you sit through detailing how "it's" going to go down. I have sat through some of the shittiest movies produced... all the while scheming, "is it going to happen in the car, in front of her house, in the parking lot after the movie, when? how do I get her isolated?" All valid questions. All will be answered but in the meantime try and enjoy the movie...

There's the first faux pas: don't take your first date to a movie. If she turns out to be a pain in the ass, but she's hot, then sure - take her to a movie to shut her up. Use this as your time to plot and plan -how you are going to see those tits- But if she's a cool chick, take her to a place where you talk and get to know her.

A pool hall is always great. The way she bends and moves around the table will give you an idea if she's warming up to you or not. At the very least it'll give you a clue as to how she performs in the sack.

Make your move at the end of the date. NOTHING will end a date faster than an ill-timed move. NOTHING.

There are endless places to go on a first date. Go to a place that is sociable. A place where there is plenty of topics to talk about. (Again unless she's a pain in the ass, then take her to a movie) The more conversation you have, the better idea you'll have as to whether or not she's into you. It also helps with any awkward silences during the date.

There are many places to take your date, but there are only a couple of ways the date will end. You're either in or you're out.

If you walk her back to her place and she invites you in, accept. Always accept.

If there is EVER any alcohol involved, it can mean two things; She needs to get drunk enough to put up with your lame ass or, she feels relaxed enough to let her guard down. Listen and pay attention. The devil is in the details.

She's dropping hints ALL night. You need to be on your toes. If you walk her back to her door, take her hand as if it to shake it, judge her reaction... if she seems calm then slowly pull her into you and kiss her. If she appears in a rigormortis state... and is obviously uncomfortable, then shake her hand and walk away. Don't try and kiss her. There is nothing more painful than a guy making a move on a chick who wants nothing to do with him . For the love of God, pay attention. Just this once.

If you DRIVE her home: when you pull up the driveway, does she bolt out of the car, is her seat belt off BEFORE you stop the car? All this is important. Our subconscious does strange things. Be sensitive to her actions/re-actions.

Trying to kiss her in the car can prove to be awkward... given the way you are seated, the seatbelts, the console... there are many obstacles that can physically get in the way. Try to avoid making the first move in your car. GET OUT OF THE CAR AND OPEN HER DOOR. Don't rush to do it, do it if it's part of the rhythm and it doesn't make you look eager.

If the date goes well and she likes you, 50% of the time she'll put out. I guess I always tried because I was worried that they would change their minds the day after... so I would always get what I could and hope she wouldn't wake up to regret it the next day.

Girls do things out of impulse, making out with you on the first date may be one of them... don't give her anything to regret. Don't ever try and go further than she will allow.

A lot of this advice assumes you can read the signs of your date. This advice assumes you are aware of when a girl likes you and when she can't wait to finish the date, run home and puke. If you are unaware of "the cosmic signs" or even the obvious ones, I strongly suggest you figure them out quickly.

Making The First Move

Signs are all around us. Pay attention to how she interacts with you. There is no excuse for you for you to keep on fumbling around feeling dejected or striking out. There is someone out there for you, but it helps if you are aware.