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Hey there, Alright so as if you don't have better things to do with your time, and you haven't heard this a million times, but I'm dwelling on this guy.  The story is, I really want my ex-boyfriend back.

I didn't realize how disgusting other men are and how much I took him for granted until I dumped him and took the time to date other guys.  Unfortunately, I'm not the smoothest person, and I just couldn't bare to talk to him after I did it, so I shunned him...for a year and a half.  Our relationship only lasted a few months, but they were really memorable for me.  I broke it off because my friends didn\'t like him... I basically want to establish that I\'m a total bitch and I don\'t deserve him, but I do want a second chance, or even just a chance to make my case.  I don\'t know how to approach him, just because whenever I try, he's really awkward and tries to get out of it.  Yeah, that probably means he hates me, but I
have to get it off my chest.  Am I wasting my time, or what?

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Hey Thanx for your email.

Well you're not alone.  This happens to a lot of us.  Human nature, don't know what you have 'til it's gone blah blah...

This is what you do;  you tell him exactly what you have told me, minus the 'my friends didn't like him'.  Tell him you took him for granted, that you still think about him and one day you'd like to grab a coffee (or whatever).  If for no other reason, but to feel better about yourself.  BUT you have to make absolute certain you feel this way and it's not a knee jerk reaction.  Because if he does decide to come back to you, and a couple of weeks later you realize why you broke it off in the first place, then yeah, you'll be a bitch. 

So when you talk to him, don't grovel, don't tell him you don't deserve him - just as one human being to another, tell him how you feel - but don't creep him out.  Your emotions towards him have to equal the amount of time you dated him vs. the amount of time you haven't been dating him. 

You mentioned that you only dated a couple of months and it's been a year and a half since you've been together.  Given that, you can't be anywhere near emotional with him.  In fact, don't even bring up the 'taking him for granted' part.  The truth is, he may have moved on completely from you so you don't want to give him too much.

Tell him this, "I Don't know if you ever think back to our relationship, but I do, and I just want to say that I was an idiot for letting it fall apart.  I'd like to make it up somehow...If you're up for it, let's grab a coffee."  If he says, "no" then you have your answer.  If he says, "yes", great, go out but don't bring up any of your doubts or insecurities about your past relationship(s) with him or anyone else.  Talk about anything but. 

I have a feeling though that you're just looking back at your last good relationship and fixating on it.  Trust me. 

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