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natureofproject: My best friend is a guy and I love him as my friend (and probably as more) but its been hard to figure out our relationship together. 

We met in the dorms but didn't date cause we lived on the same floor, we kissed once when we were drunk our sophmore year but he didn't want anything except a friendship. 

At that point I was fine with it and I figured that he didn't really like me.  So the rest of our sophmore year we stayed good firends.  Our junior year we didn't see eachother at all cause we studied abroad for a year, he was one of my two friends I talked to from spain and I was his only friend that he talked to from italy. 

When we got back we started hanging out more than ever, he comes over to my apartment most of the nights he gets off of work after 11:30PM and we are always skiing together. 

Anyway getting to the point, I had resigned myself to be a friend of his but the other night, we stayed up together the whole night talking  about everything.  He brings up an age old supject that his friends give him crap about how we are friends and he asks me what I thought we were.  I pretty much freaked and said,that we were such good friends that nobody could understand what we have and that was the end of that subject, or at least that's what I thought.

While were sitting on his bench that same night he looks over to me and tells me I look hot.  Just so you know, I was in his sweats and no make-up, smoking a cigarrette watching the sunrise.  Has he changed his mind?  Should I bring it up again?  I'm just really confused about what to do.

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You may have missed your chance... 'he asks what he thought we were'  that was your chance to move it for a kiss.  He was asking your permission basically.. then he tells you you look hot... do you need a house to fall on you to realize he's dropping hints everywhere? 

I wouldn't bring it up again.  You can't really say.. 'remember the time you said i looked hot'  ... you have to wait for him to say it again (hopefully he's not sick of putting himself out there) next time he says 'you look hot'  say something like, 'not as hot as i would naked'  or something semi shocking, you need to respond in a way that will allow him to follow your lead.  You need to coax him out of his shell.  You said 'such good friends?'  you really said that?  That's as bad as Michael Corelone giving Fredo the Kiss of Death.  Friends?  You can't say that to a guy.  If you want a shot with this guy, it may not get any more obvious than the hints he was giving you that night.  Just wait for the next opportunity.  The next compliment or whatever then make your move.  He doesn't want to be shot down by you, so he is (was) treading lightly, feeling his way around... and you said, 'friends'  Men shut down when they hear that word.  Unless the sentence continues with, 'my friend and I want to have a 3-some...' 
 
So what to do? play it cool.  That's all you can do.  If you missed your chance, you have to take it on the chin and move on.  You can run after him, but that's sad and you don't want to get into the habit of running after men.  So hopefully the chance will spring up again, and you can spring on him.
 
Good luck.
 
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