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Hi, first of all. I have been reading though the whole site and I have to tell that I really like your opinion.
Which drives me to write this email ^^;; So, I am 22 years old soon, and I have never had any boyfriend or dated anyone.

I am the type of girl who studies really diligently in my school age, and still continues to do so in my university days.  To tell the truth I am not in rush in finding a partner, not that I am not interested at all. But all of my girl-friends now start to spin their heads around for some love/guy issues and being a good listener, I start to wonder if I, indeed, should spin my head for some guys as well.

Meaning that I should start looking for a guy.  No one is forcing me to, and there is no pressure from myself to find a guy, I am just concerned that if I live my life like this I might look in the mirror one day and it is too late to date someone, for example. 

Is it only a ridiculous thought of mine or do you think it is deadly serious? I don't know at all ^^;; Well, that's all. Thanks for your attention.

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Hey, thanx for your email.  Whatever you do, keep on studying hard.  That always comes first.  The good news is, whether you are looking for it or not, a guy you like will come around.  There are however, certain things you can do to make your self more receptive and open to meeting guys like smiling, talking, and generally appearing interested.  Also making an effort to look good like doesn't hurt.
 
You certainly want to at least start talking to guys - because yes, time will pass you by and before you know it, you're 35 single living in a one bedroom apartment with a bird. 

You need to learn how to balance your social life and your work life.  Soon, you'll have a good job and you won't have time for a new relationship because you're too busy trying to get ahead... so yeah, you are right to be a little cautious.  It's fine that you have never dated anyone, a little weird, but all in all, fine. 

Remember, dating is an important part of life, you learn how to deal with guys, you learn different personalities and most importantly you learn a lot about yourself.
 
So no, it's not a ridiculous thought, and the fact that you are thinking it, makes it less ridiculous.
 
Good luck.
 
SM

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