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natureofproject: Arite so I've got a problem, just hear me out. This kid and I started to like eachother like three years ago when we were thirteen and now we are both 16 almost 17. He was the one after me at first because he showed interest in me before I showed it in him. So at first I was playing hard to get. It was like that until we were like 14 and then we were "together." No, not going out, "together." Whatever the #### that means.

So anyway, we would hang out sometimes but talk on the phone everyday (he called me) and #### like that. We NEVER did ANYTHING. Not one hookup, nothing. Crazy, I know. The wierd thing is, this kid does not have any GUY friends, just girl friends. He has one best friend who is a girl, but she has a boyfriend and theyve been going out for a year, and I know for a fact (trust me) that nothing was ever or is ever going on with them. They are just friends. So lets rule out the possibility that he is gay. People have said they thought he was, but he isnt, Ive even asked him before and he says stuff like, "no, im not, i think id know if i was."

So anyway, the past year or so he has been showing less and less interest in me and I know he isnt as interested in me ashe was when we first started liking eachother. He is an extremyl indecisive person, which pisses me the #### off. But whatever, anyway, so he went out with this hideous girl last year and then when he dumped her he came back to me like a baby telling me how much of a bitch he was to her and all this stuff.

And now him and I are good friends...we talk a lot, weve started hanging out again too, and two weeks ago we FINALLY got with eachother. First time ever. I was in the middle of talking and he just looked at me and said "I think we should kiss.." So I leaned over and kissed him and we kissed for a while. That whole night we were together he was acting like he liked me again like he would just look into my eyes and then give me random hugs and #### like that and like hold me close to him and stuff. And he is always talking to me about that girl he went out wth last year because he knows I will never let that die down....because she was so ugly and everone thinks so and so he is always like "god I cant ebelive I went out with her shes sonasty blahblah.."

So now lately I just want to make him really jealous so I flirt with these other guys all the time (he actually really dislikes them, which is a plus.) and he seems to care...like he'll be like "oh everyone wants you" or "oh so are you gonna get with him too." stuff like that..but then i dont really know if he cares about it or not, because last week I said to him this "tell me whats going on im sick of your head games just tell me if you like me or not or if the kiss the other night was just for fun." so he told me it was just for fun, although at the time, thats not what it seemed like at all. But I really dont know.

So then I told him that Id wanna do stuff wth him (like anything...get with him give him head let him do stuff to me have sex..everything) just for fun too, and I wouldnt care that its just for fun (because he knows i still like him, i told him this.) And he kept saying to me "I dont know if i like you RIGHT NOW, i have to hang out with you more to see..." he also kept telling me this "I start to get feelings for you again whenever me and you talk about things from our past from when we DID like eachother a lot." (like when he was after me.)

So I mean i get what hes saying. I understand what hes doing, i think. my guy friend told me he just wants ass so hes acting all sweet to me. but that wouldnt make sens bc he knows he can get whatever he wants from me whenever, since i ####### told him that flat out. We actually talked about having sexwith eachother the other night... online...he was like i want to #### you long and hard blah blah like right now and im not even joking we should seriously do it sometime... and i was like yeah i know etc. So I mean, he CANT be gay. I read some of your other answers to other peoples questions and the most helpful one was where you said to ignore the guy if you really like him. Thats what Ive been trying to do, along with making him jealous, which I think was working, but im gonna lay off on that because i think it might start to become obvious to him that im trying to make him jealous.

But my main question is, WHAT THE HELL DO I DO? Should I keepignoring him? I miss him so ####### bad I cry about him every night and I know how pathetic it is but I cant help it. There was this one night a few weeks ago where we got in a big fight online and then he called my cell and we were talking for three hours while I was crying and he was tryig to make me feel better and ####. I mean, if a guy does that he cant be that much of an ass can he? Anyway, tonight im going out with my best feiend, her ex bf and his friend who ill be getting with. But its only to make the kid i like jealous. pathetic, i know. please tell me what you think of this situation and what i should do. its been driving me insane for like 3 years. thankyou thankyou thankyou.

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SM: Holy shit. You can't be serious can you? Do you breathe when you talk? Is everything in your life so dramatic and involved? You're going to exhaust yourself by the time you're 18.

Okay, no offense - but I think you're pretty phucking annoying. Sure I don't know you - but I can only imagine how you go on and on and on about your problems with anyone who'll listen.

Don't get me wrong, talking about your problems is a good thing - but Dear God, pull yourself together.

Bottom line - you're not in a healthy relationship with this guy. And as far as I can tell, you may not be in a healthy relationship with yourself. You've already told him that he can have you whenever he wants - so how do you go back to making him jealous.

What I'm saying is, you've already shown him his present before you wrapped it.

This guy is an idiot and so are you for telling him he can do anything to you. Have some self respect. NO GUY is EVER worth your dignity.

He doesn't like you. And if he ever gets around to having sex with you, it'll only be for fun and he'll never respect you afterwards. So my advice to you: find a normal guy who doesn't make you jump through hoops. They're hard to find - which makes it all more worth the while.

Good luck.

SM.

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